Any man who's enough of an ******* to sleep with/attempt to sleep with another man's wife deserves whatever that other man decides to do to him in response.
Yup. That's a no go zone, even for me, and I'm a total *******.Any man who's enough of an ******* to sleep with/attempt to sleep with another man's wife deserves whatever that other man decides to do to him in response.
Bwahaha. That's some funny right there.To a normal, sober person, this may be true. Drunken people have a much lower potential to distinguish between right, wrong, and anything in between.
That's why drunk people are not allowed to drive, and they aren't beholden to some forms of contract.
I'm not saying it's a valid excuse, but IMO it should be taken into consideration in discussion. I'm sure a lot of us, otherwise responsible people have done some irresponsible acts while intoxicated.
Did I ever relate the story of the guy at a party who tried to impress the kids by showing them how you can get an empty beer bottle to stick to the wall with static cling? A sober person would know that empty beer bottles aren't quite the same thing as a balloon.
Must be ok in AL....A hard dick has no conscience but it takes two.
Better beat her ass too...(I am not advocating beating a woman. Only making a point)
Any man who's enough of an ******* to sleep with/attempt to sleep with another man's wife deserves whatever that other man decides to do to him in response.
Any man who's enough of an ******* to sleep with/attempt to sleep with another man's wife deserves whatever that other man decides to do to him in response.
I don't see how violence would be a viable answer in this (or most any) situation. As someone else said, it takes two to tango. The d*ck is already out of the proverbial pants, as it were.
Second, how the hell should that other guy know what sort of agreement one person has with another person? Are they supposed to check for a marriage licence at the town clerk before making a move?
Seriously, the naivete on this particular issue is stunning.
Maybe I missed it, but I did not read into the first post that a hand went to any hoo-hah. My assumption was her ass. Not that it is any more tolerable. But also not uncommon for some drunk ******* to grab some drunk chicks ass.
Vagarities about pictures women send (sounds like maybe she sent him something), flirtations about vegetarianism timing, and talking about the size of his kitten are unnacceptable. Period.
Troo. But also depends on whether or not it happened before or after the other stuff. Hard to fault a guy for making that move if he's been sent photos, talked about BJ's, and the size of his kitten with her.
Troo. But also depends on whether or not it happened before or after the other stuff. Hard to fault a guy for making that move if he's been sent photos, talked about BJ's, and the size of his kitten with her.
Hand in pants guy was a different guy from a year before. There's a pattern here, which has, and likely will continue to, repeat itself.
Hand in pants guy was a different guy from a year before. There's a pattern here, which has, and likely will continue to, repeat itself.
I don't see how violence would be a viable answer in this (or most any) situation. As someone else said, it takes two to tango. The d*ck is already out of the proverbial pants, as it were.
Second, how the hell should that other guy know what sort of agreement one person has with another person? Are they supposed to check for a marriage licence at the town clerk before making a move?
Seriously, the naivete on this particular issue is stunning.
He wrote, " managed to get his hand in her pants at a bar one night." So I thought that meant hand in her pants...like inside...all up in that junk.
Must be ok in AL....
Hand in pants guy was a different guy from a year before. There's a pattern here, which has, and likely will continue to, repeat itself.
It was a different guy....
This.
Yeah, I saw it too. But took it to mean her ass. It's pretty vague regardless but not any more acceptable one way or the other.
UNLESS
She sent him tits-n-kittens photos, talked about giving BJ's, etc... first.
I don't see how violence would be a viable answer in this (or most any) situation. As someone else said, it takes two to tango. The d*ck is already out of the proverbial pants, as it were.
Second, how the hell should that other guy know what sort of agreement one person has with another person? Are they supposed to check for a marriage licence at the town clerk before making a move?
Seriously, the naivete on this particular issue is stunning.
Never said violence was a solution to the problem, only that he deserves whatever comes of it. Like you said, it takes two to tango. Acting like the cheating wife is the only responsible party is absurd. You don't bless another man's wife. That's a given in life. There's consequences.
If I walked up to you and your wife at a bar and started trying to get her to go home with me by saying sexually suggestive things to her, is your response:
A) Get angry with me, or
B) Wait and see what your wife's response is
Obviosuly things are different if the third party doesn't realize the woman is married. Duh. That's not what we're talking about here.
You don't -anything- another man's wife. That's a given in life. There's consequences.
Never said violence was a solution to the problem, only that he deserves whatever comes of it. Like you said, it takes two to tango. Acting like the cheating wife is the only responsible party is absurd. You don't bless another man's wife. That's a given in life. There's consequences.
If I walked up to you and your wife at a bar and started trying to get her to go home with me by saying sexually suggestive things to her, is your response:
A) Get angry with me, or
B) Wait and see what your wife's response is
Obviously things are different if the third party doesn't realize the woman is married. Duh. That's not what we're talking about here.
Wanting to act out in violence is natural - but only ends up with more pain for you when there are criminal consequences for those actions.
But if a man does this and then she flirts with him ... bless her.
Psssst..... Tell ya a lil secret.... I think that's what he was tryin' to do. [emoji12]
The hand in the pants was butt, as explained to me. Although at this point it should be noted, that all my info on that is from her directly. She told me it happened and that she tried to stop it. Though her attempts to stop it sounded like they were half hearted at best. I appreciate all the input and will take some of it into consideration moving forward, but will likely stay out of the conversation moving forward. I don't really want to add any more fuel to this thing here and need to stop worrying about what you all say and start applying it to moving toward some sort of resolution with her, be it good or bad.
Time to start moving monies to a secure place that she doesn't know about. I suggest a deep hole in the woods until the divorce is over.
Im going to say some things different than what others have.
You can mend a broken relationship, and it can work. The key is making sure that you actually resolve ALL of the problems, not just one of them. The issue isnt just her (probably) cheating. She is (probably) stepping out for a reason. If you both want to be together, there is nothing that says you cant, but you should respect yourself enough to make sure you are comfortable with that outcome. If you cant see yourself fixing it, then call a divorce lawyer now, dont draw it out for the drama. If you cant fix it, you dont need answers, you dont need her side of the story, you just need out. That is okay.
Now if you do want to fix it, you need to actually fix it. You need to be upfront with her. Ask if she still wants to be married to you. You can ask if she cheated or not, it really doesnt matter. Accept whatever she tells you and believe it. If you are committing to this, then that is the only truth that matters. Talk about your relationship, ask what you can do to make it stronger. If you can stomach counseling, go for it. Make your expectations of the relationship known. If you want complete honesty, tell her that is what you require. If you want her to do what she wants to do, and you just dont want to know about it, that is fine too. Dont let people sway you, this is your relationship and if you can live with it, then it is a good solution. On the same hand, ask what she needs. Basically rewrite or at least review the rule book for your relationship, and establish clear lines of communication. She needs to know that you would rather have her tell you to your face "Im unhappy, and we need to fix this" than her step out. Or, if it comes to this, she should know that it is okay to say that she wants to end it.
If you can establish ground rules, and get past the original issue, you can definitely make it work. I went through a similar thing, and this is exactly what we did. Seven years later, and we are still together and very happy. Our relationship is built on trust and absolute honesty now, which is more than it ever was before.
Only the two of you can make the decision, and it is your decision to make. Getting advice from friends, family, and the internet is great, but at the end the day you have to live with it. Do whatever will make you happy.
I'm not trolling. This thing has taken on a life of it's own and I don't think I could troll this well if I had tried. There's really not much for her to lose if she just up and left. She actually brings in most of the income in the house. As far as explaining specific parts of the texts when I mention them, she just says that it's just a joke. She says that she only flirts with people that she sees as harmless and wouldn't actually act on it. I've got no hard evidence that anything actually happened between them and no hard evidence has been given to me that says nothing did. All I've got to go on is her word saying that she didn't. Outside of this, our marriage has been solid.
Also, as I look back on the texts, the really slimy stuff is initiated by him. Her flirting along with it doesn't sit well with me, but she isn't bringing most of this stuff up; he is.
You need to go drinking with both of them. See where the evening goes.
Sounds like a recipie for a devils threesome.
We've already had a thread gone , what's next?I am fairly certain we'll continue to make definite assertions based on vague conclusions until you decide to come back with an update.
Some people like kinky. Tough to blame them.
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